Baby shower question?

If you ask me, I think that them expecting you to host your own baby shower is beyond tacky. Throwing a party like that is also a lot of work (and expense) for a woman who is pregnant and already has a child. Showers are supposed to be about pampering mama-to-be and baby. All you should have to do is show up, eat a nice lunch and oooh over the gifts. If they don't want to allow you to do that by hosting it themselves, then I say forget the idea. Also, right after having a baby, you need to worry about hosting a naming ceremony (or any other kind of party) as much as you need a great big hole in your head. You will have enough to do with caring for your older child, being up all night feeding your new one, and adjusting to a new little person in your life, your whole family dynamic will be changing. Enjoy your existing little one, enjoy your new little one, and let them hold thier own parties if they think it is so important. Sounds to me like they are trying to guilt you into doign something that they are too lazy to do themselves.